random.

Words without action are meaningless; action coupled by words can make a world of a difference to someone special.

Words alone give expectations.

Will you be able to live up to the expectation that you set, especially when it is by the own words you say?

"Alex, people change."

It was those exact words from a friend which started me thinking more about it. Yes, I agree, people do change. But one would think, are you able to choose the way you change, the way you turn out to be?

People usually change because of the things that happen around them, both good and bad things. Perhaps its now all to the question of your character, how would you react to such things, and in turn, that is how you would change.

Change is inevitable. Given the choice, everyone would want to change for the better. But how are you going to see the change, until someone else points it out to you?

At that point, is it already too late? Because that is your first instinct. This is the real you.

a thinker's thoughts.

I heard this quote from somewhere and despite my new found prowess in Google-ing (thanks wspc), I still cant find the full quote and its source. But it goes something like

"Beware the man who thinks too much, for he is the most dangerous."

They said that Julius Caesar was one such man, and 曹操 was another one.

I have had this discussion with a friend of mine, who also thinks too much. It is a double-edged sword, with the obvious advantage in you being able to analyse stuff more comprehensively, gaining enlightenment and understanding, and the matter comes to a close quickly.

However, one horrendous train journey last night shows one of the cons to thinking too much. You would know the more you think about it, the worse it would become, but instinctively you can stop yourself from just continuing to think more and more.

Its a major pain in the butt especially when you are alone, and there's nothing to distract you from thinking by yourself. It gets you down and totally demoralised. Until it comes to the obvious conclusion that there is nothing you can do about it by just merely thinking. But by then your mood would pretty much be spoilt.

Perhaps we should just NOT ask the questions that you do not want answers to.

But can you help it? That's the challenge.

expecting.

Nope, I am not pregnant, no matter how suspicious of my expanding belly you may be. Haha.

I have been holding this post back for quite awhile, in view of my preparations for my darling girlfren's birthday. Stressful, but to look at her smiling & shocked face when everything fell according to plan was just oh so sweet.

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Expectations of others is what I am gonna muse about in this post. Would it be easier to live without having expectations of others? To avoid disappointment of others not matching your expectation level, with the added bonus of being surprised when others do something unexpected for you.

I apply this for my acquaintances as I do not put in so much effort for such friendships.

How about close friends?

They can argue that you should know their character and you cant expect certain things from them, but then again, they should know your expectations of them.

When I feel that someone has a certain expectation for me, I would try my best to live up to that expectation. Perhaps its just personal pride to live up to what others expect of me.

But in a relationship, there are bound to be certain expectations of each other. Perhaps it is always best to say it out at the start of the relationship, rather than to wait for things to happen.

But then again, love blinds us all.

faint annoyance.

That same close fren, has told me more stuff that made me do some deeper thinking.

"If you love and care about the person, you would be motivated to want to go correct that person's faults."

"You (myself, Alex) are generally good natured, but there are some stuff you cannot tolerate, and stand strong on what you think is right or wrong."

I seem to be on a rolling streak, getting pissed at a few people close to me over this weekend.

Close friends, they are supposed to be there for you, wake you up when you are falling into a pit, say things with frankness that may not be nice but necessary. But as close friends, would it be a special privilege or being allowed to be insensitive, or just plain taking advantage of, or that one will always drop everything just for the other?

I have been thinking of what constitutes as a best friend. Would it be the same as being in a relationship with the opposite sex? For what I feel, it would be some sort like being in a relationship, minus the physical intimacy, that anything the friend says or does would invariably affect the other person.

But the problem is, is whether they are able to think it the same way?

nature vs nurture.

Genetic make up or external influence? I'd say its a combination of both, but weighing more on external influence.

The basis of your character is first moulded by the ones that cared for you since young, your parents. I cannot claim to have had the best parenting, but is there a guide or rules pertaining to what proper parenting is? Perhaps the end product is the best way to judge.

I have been doing some thinking on this. There has to be basic discipline taught and meted out when the child is young. But as the child grows older into adulthood, where he is more mature and knows a little of society and how it works, is it right to still threaten him with monetary means, a roof over their heads, and demanding filial piety?

Wouldn't a child experiencing all these grow up with a sense of resentment?

Well, I would.

untitled.

A friend told me, "When someone is in love with you, you will be surprised what that person would do just for you."

That got me pondering, how love is that amazing. I had observed from a third person's point of view, what love can drive a person to become, be it for the better or worse.

Even now, I'm still being surprised every time.

Thank you for loving me.